Partnership has become a focal point in our society. Pop psychology books abound with advice on how to find the perfect mate, but marriage and relationships are much more than that. First we need to have a good relationship with ourselves (linked to the self cultivation area) before we can look to share it with others. Equally important is how to nurture a relationship through the down cycles or hard times as well as the up cycles.

Before you try to find a partner or fix the one you have, ask if you have done the groundwork on yourself first. Do you put your partner before yourself? Do you expect more from your partner than you are willing to give? Are there equal parts romance, fun, talking, listening, loving and alone time in your relationship? Are you in a relationship or do you find yourself in a continual string of relationships that does not let you fully express who you are? Are you in a solid, loving relationship? This, too, must be watered and fertilized in order to keep it growing.

The correspondence between this area of the Bagua and the sex chakra looks straightforward, but life is never so simple, is it? Relationships are much more complex than just sex. They include business partnerships, family relationships, and friendships. Each of these relationships must also find its power in the second chakra. Every relationship must also move up to be transformed by the heart chakra and, if possible, all be brought up into the realm of oneness through the crown chakra.

The marriage / relationship area of your Bagua (energy map) is located in the southwest sector of your home.

Suggestions for energizing your sex chakra/relationship area.

If your partner is volatile, earth is the right element: a rock or something ceramic. Wood nurtures relationships. Water adds clarity and emotional sensitivity. Metal represents full partnership and abundant love. Fire adds passion. Essential Oils: geranium, grapefruit, orange, pine, sandalwood, ylang-ylang.